If you were to ask a woman if there were different ways to conceive a baby (baby making vs love making) she'd probably say no. Sex is sex, right? But for couples who have been trying for months or years you'd hear an emphatic "YES!" Sex while trying to conceive does take on a different role – for the couple, for the act itself and for the duration.

When a couple is trying to conceive they are literally at the mercy of the reproductive cycle. It turns what once was a spontaneous and fun activity into a regimented routine. (This is the down side to charting the fertility signs, because you tend to stress about the timing now more than ever.)

The reproductive cycles comes in three phases each month.

1. Pre-Ovulatory – Having sexual intercourse during this may or may happen, but you should be happy to practice – especially if you have erratic cycles and aren’t sure when you will ovulate. During this phase your basal body temperatures will remain low. Still, you check your temperatures and other fertility signs daily for signs of ovulation. The closer you get to ovulation, the happier and more willing you are to have sexual intercourse.
2. Ovulation – This is the time you are most wanting to have sexual intercourse to the point of setting aside definite times to procreate. At this point, with a lot of women, "love" making is the furthest thing from their minds. Only "making a baby" is the prevailing thought. You are concerned with time spent on your back to give the sperm time to reach the egg.
   
   While in the throes of trying to conceive I heard comments like:
   "Ugh, again tonight?"
   "Why can’t we try a different position this time?"
   "I'm honestly too tired."
   "I just can’t right now."
   
   Those comments would bring on a stressed out response from me and would cause a great deal of strain on our once vibrant love life. All these comments came at a time that we spent 16 long months in trying to conceive and from a man that would balk at the thought of going "without" for one day during our first year of marriage.
   
   You can see, the ovulation phase can be quite stressful to the love life especially if it's taking a while to gain results. These comments are not alone with just me – I've talked to many women who have said the same thing in the same circumstance. Gotta face it – planned "baby making" isn't as fun as spontaneous love making. This is where inventive ways to conceive a baby comes into play.
    
3. Post ovulation – also known as "days post ovulation or DPO". This is by far the most stressful time, because it's the grand waiting game. It's the analyze the fertility signs game. I always felt at the mercy of my basal body thermometer. If I woke up with a lower than normal temperature, my mood that day would be down. And on the flip-side – if the temperatures were higher, I'd be elated thinking it would lead to a positive pregnancy test soon. But at times my dear husband would say "I just wish you'd quit taking your temperature."
   
   The post ovulation two-week wait is the toughest part of the cycle. You have to wait at least 10 days to find out if your baby making marathon produced a baby. Many call this the obsession roller-coaster with a positive pregnancy test as the prize. If the wait ends in yet another negative, you will feel devastation. It's short lived though, because before you know it you’re in the midst of yet another new cycle and another month of hope and searching for more ways to conceive a baby.

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Ways to conceive a baby with true Love Making

Remember the honeymoon days? When making love came as easily as rain in early spring? When you didn't have a care in the world about what position you were in – or the timing. All you did was have fun. Romance ruled the day, from the ever-popular "noon quickies" to the tantalizing effects of a midnight romp just because the mood struck.

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